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Helping people deal with global crisis

Today I rang the mother of a young client (14 yrs) who recently attended clinic with severe anxiety, panic attacks and depression. Apart from ‘checking in’, I wanted to share an important message with his mum based upon current world events. After our session, he has been doing really well.  His parents were so grateful for the change in their son, his reconnection with the world and his new resilience.  …Read More

The gift of self appreciation

The shift from being stuck in a problem to creating lasting solutions often means acknowledging, and then accepting, certain things about ourselves. As we begin such a process is  often  the first time that we give names or even identities to those darker parts of ourselves which have been driving our unwanted behaviours at an almost sub-conscious level.  We sometimes become aware of some uncomfortable truths. Awareness and even understanding …Read More

Is the ‘problem’ in the eye of the beholder?

When studying psychology, they love to ask the question “what is the difference between seeing and perceiving?”  How would you answer that? I once went to Egypt, and one evening the difference between perceiving and seeing was beautifully demonstrated. I was invited to attend the ‘sound and light’ show at the great pyramids.  We were ushered to our seats, the lights are dimmed and the show begins. All of a …Read More

Beating the Christmas Blues

Christmas seems to be a time when – contrary to all the messages in the media – people feel unhappy, down and blue. We can all remember Christmases from our childhood.  We hear the stories of others.  We watch all of the messages from advertisers and the media.  When we think about ‘our’ Christmas, it often doesn’t measure up. And here is where the problem lies.  The gap between expectation and reality.  If the expectation …Read More

Your choices in weight control

Choices in weight control How, exactly, do people gain control of their weight? People will talk about a fad diet, a structured program or specific regime that has helped them reach the weight that they want… And then they revert to old habits and pile the weight back on again. The truth is that in every moment we have choices.  Which diet we want to follow, what exercise we are …Read More

Realise your strengths

It is such a common thing for clients to be focused on their problems.  In fact, it is often their ‘distress’ with the impact that their problem is having on their life that brings them into clinic.    They feel ‘stuck’, helpless or hopeless.  They perhaps know how they want to be, which is different to how they are right now.  [does this sound familiar to you?] This difference serves …Read More

The power of small

How much change are you capable of?  Often, we seek a complete ‘revolution’ in our problem.  We approach getting better with an ‘all or nothing’ philosophy.  “I will either be completely fixed or completely broken”.  Imagine the pressure this puts upon someone to succeed?  When getting past the problem seems like an insurmountable object, can you see how all or nothing thinking can lead to feeling helpless, and hopeless? Consider …Read More

Learning to blow a new tune…

My 13 year old son wanted to try the saxophone. He has been playing the guitar for a while, and he wanted to ‘branch out’ – I think he reckons it looks and sounds pretty cool. The new saxophone arrived, and playing it involves a whole series of skills he has never even considered before.  One of the biggest ones is how to get a ‘sound’ out of it by …Read More

The science of hypnotic memory review

Often, people see a situation in their past as a ‘root cause’ of the problems they are experiencing today.  In this case, regardless how much work we do on creating new and more valuable patterns of thinking and behaviour, they keep holding on to this one event (or, in many cases, a ‘sense’ of an event without it having any true form) which continues to interfere with their ability to move …Read More

Read the label: it may be the problem

How we describe what troubles us will go a long way to determining how it can be resolved. Each issue has a spectrum of descriptive possibilities – impacting how we and others define and view the problem.       For example, consider Tom*, whose ‘experience’ could be described as: “I feel sad”; or “I am experiencing a state of depression”; or “I have depression”; or “I am a depressive”. …Read More