Anxiety places a massive burden on society, in terms of the impact it has on the people suffering it directly, as well as all of the families, friends, workplaces and associated people who all feel the negative impact of anxiety upon them. In many ways, Anxiety can be considered a misuse of our natural stress response. The way that people deal with anxiety matches the experience of people who suffer …Read More
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Often in clinic there are clients who have developed severe levels of anxiety by asking themselves questions which are impossible to answer. “What if” is a question which may be useful in creative writing, but for people with anxiety, it can be the worst question they ask themselves. Consider this process. A client asks themselves a ‘what if’ question: “What if I get stuck on the freeway”? If they fail …Read More
This week, I have had the pleasure of spending four days working with Dr. Michael Yapko, perhaps the world’s top expert in the treatment and anxiety and depression. Dr Yapko brings the very best in both the science and the artistry in the natural treatment of anxiety and depression. In fact, Dr Yapko was emphatic that the medical model of depression, in particular, has been overstated, if not disproved. The …Read More
When working with someone in clinic, it is important to respect their view of the world. For someone with anxiety, it is natural for them to worry about if they are doing hypnosis ‘right’. This fear can stop them engaging in the session unless we respect this and make it completely OK for them to have whatever experience occurs. (And in truth, there is no right or wrong way to …Read More
A short post today. Something to really focus on.
Because brain research shows that what we focus on, we amplify. That is, as we apply greater attention to something, it takes up more of our thinking, processing, memory and experience.
This is wonderful if we are focusing on good things in our lives.
It is not so good if you are focused and absorbed in your problems.
Many of my clients have spent so long intensely focusing upon their problem that it becomes amplified to almost completely fill their experience. Everything is somehow ‘filtered’ through the problem.
What is true is that if there is problem, there is ‘not-problem’. Ask yourself these questions whilst thinking about your problem:
- What is the problem?
- What is it not?
- If it wasn’t that, what else could it be?
- If I never had the problem in the first place, how would I be?
- When it is gone, what will I do differently?
- If I stood on the moon and looked down on me from all the way up there, what else would I notice the problem wasn’t?
Because it may be time for you to focus on, and amplify, your many wonderful resources that you have to disregard to have your problem.
In clinic, using strategic therapy and hypnosis, amplifying people’s resources to help find and empower the ‘not-problem’ is such a gentle and generous way to have rapid and lasting effects.
If you want to see how this would work for you, then contact me at www.reflectiveresolutions.com
In this video, I take a look at some of the things that are often ‘going on’ in depression. Understanding how these things apply to your situation may be the first step in resolving them – and moving on.
This week, I would like to share with you a short video I recorded about Anxiety.
From this perspective, you may be able to ask yourself:
Which of these frames do I run?
What would happen to my anxiety if I no longer ‘ran’ it through these frames?
Another expert arrives on the scene with an answer. A new idea emerges that suddenly explains the ‘secrets’ of life.
And then, after some time, it is discredited and replaced by other stories, concepts and models.
It seems a never-ending cycle.
Because life is so complex, we all attempt to simplify the world into understandable processes and models that give us certainty to live our lives.
In dealing with people and the issues that they present in the hypnotherapy clinic, I use 3 really simple models:
1. The human brain is infinitely complex that we cannot truly know everything about it
2. Human life is even more complex, filled with relationships, beliefs, associations and ideas.
3. Every person has their own way of looking at the world, that is neither right or wrong but different to mine.
It is a humbling ‘model’ to adopt. Whilst ‘evangelists’ are racing around claiming that what they believe in is ‘the way’, the truth is that there are many ways. And often we simply just ‘don’t know’.
In fact, having the flexibility to not project my ‘models’ of the world and life onto my clients is one of the keys to my success. If they believe something is true, how can I know better than them? How could I know if any of my models are more ‘correct’ than theirs?
By working with each client as an individual, accepting and utilising their model of life to help them achieve the outcomes that they want, we are much closer to finding solutions than if I try to rigidly fit them to a model of the world as I see it.
Using strategic approaches in hypnosis (strategic hypnotherapy) is an elegant way to work with the client, in their model of life, to get to the outcome they want.
What ‘models’ of beliefs, thoughts and life have you adopted?
Which ones serve you, and which ones do not?
If you were to move on from those rigid models to something else, what possibilities exist for you?