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October 2012

A matter of focus

A short post today.  Something to really focus on.

Because brain research shows that what we focus on, we amplify.  That is, as we apply greater attention to something, it takes up more of our thinking, processing, memory and experience.

This is wonderful if we are focusing on good things in our lives.

It is not so good if you are focused and absorbed in your problems.

Many of my clients have spent so long intensely focusing upon their problem that it becomes amplified to almost completely fill their experience.  Everything is somehow ‘filtered’ through the problem.

What is true is that if there is problem, there is ‘not-problem’.  Ask yourself these questions whilst thinking about your problem:

  • What is the problem?
  • What is it not?
  • If it wasn’t that, what else could it be?
  • If I never had the problem in the first place, how would I be?
  • When it is gone, what will I do differently?
  • If I stood on the moon and looked down on me from all the way up there, what else would I notice the problem wasn’t?

Because it may be time for you to focus on, and amplify, your many wonderful resources that you have to disregard to have your problem.

In clinic, using strategic therapy and hypnosis, amplifying people’s resources to help find and empower the ‘not-problem’ is such a gentle and generous way to have rapid and lasting effects.

If you want to see how this would work for you, then contact me at www.reflectiveresolutions.com

Live well,


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A clinical view of depression

In this video, I take a look at some of the things that are often ‘going on’ in depression.  Understanding how these things apply to your situation may be the first step in resolving them – and moving on.


Stay well,


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A clinical view of anxiety

This week, I would like to share with you a short video I recorded about Anxiety.



From this perspective, you may be able to ask yourself:  

Which of these frames do I run?

What would happen to my anxiety if I no longer ‘ran’ it through these frames?


Live well,


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Hypnotic power and mind control

The ‘belief’ in the greater community is often that Hypnosis is a ‘powerful tool’ that can be used to manipulate and control others.  

Stage hypnotists play on it.  Magicians play on it.  Unethical hypnotherapists play on it.  

Despite the explosion of scientific knowledge on hypnosis, the field continues to be plagued by this misinformation and sometimes dangerous mythology.

It is part of the allure of learning hypnosis for many – how can they covertly control or influence others?  Pick up dates, succeed in sales, gain power?  Look on the internet and there are so many products and courses for people who want to learn to manipulate (and are really just being manipulated….)

I saw a show on television this week with Derryn Brown.  ‘Experiments’.   In fact, it was nothing of the sort.  Mr Brown is an illusionist and entertainer, and his proposition (that someone can be controlled against their will to kill another with hypnosis) has been so clearly proven false.  However, as a great mentalist, illusionist and entertainer, Mr Brown made it appear possible for him to do.  And it was entertaining.

The problem for me is that these shows HARM what I try and do, and the people that I could help.  If people think that coming to a session of hypnosis involves me having control over them, having power over their behaviour, having the ability to manipulate them now and at any time in the future, then why would they trust me to help them solve their own problems with the aid of hypnosis?

The truth (proven in many clinical trials and experiments) is that the client is totally in control of their own experience.  They can come in or go out of trance at any time.  They have power over their thoughts, their images, their processes.  In a way, the therapist using hypnosis is ‘guiding’ the client to access parts of their experience and to use this for their benefit.

Hypnosis is a ‘neutral’ phenomenon and it is the quality of the suggestion and therapeutic method applied within hypnosis that makes it either worthwhile or not.

By utilising a strategic therapeutic approach, hypnosis with me is done with a purpose.  The client is ALWAYS 100% in control.  Without their consent, support and permission, nothing I could do as a therapist would have any value.  By strategically addressing the issues and their structure, rapid and long term shifts are entirely possible.

Often I have to spend several minutes assuring clients that the ‘magician’ or stage hypnosis has nothing to do with what I do in my Balwyn clinic.

So as you think about hypnosis, what is your impression?  What have you been led to believe about hypnosis?  As a highly researched and proven therapeutic tool, I would have a wish that it could be considered in its true light and not in the sensationalist frames exemplified by such TV shows.


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A model life

Another expert arrives on the scene with an answer.  A new idea emerges that suddenly explains the ‘secrets’ of life.

And then, after some time, it is discredited and replaced by other stories, concepts and models.

It seems a never-ending cycle.  

Because life is so complex, we all attempt to simplify the world into understandable processes and models that give us certainty to live our lives.

In dealing with people and the issues that they present in the hypnotherapy clinic, I use 3 really simple models:

1.  The human brain is infinitely complex that we cannot truly know everything about it

2.  Human life is even more complex, filled with relationships, beliefs, associations and ideas.

3.  Every person has their own way of looking at the world, that is neither right or wrong but different to mine.

It is a humbling ‘model’ to adopt.  Whilst ‘evangelists’ are racing around claiming that what they believe in is ‘the way’, the truth is that there are many ways.  And often we simply just ‘don’t know’.

In fact, having the flexibility to not project my ‘models’ of the world and life onto my clients is one of the keys to my success.  If they believe something is true, how can I know better than them?  How could I know if any of my models are more ‘correct’ than theirs?

By working with each client as an individual, accepting and utilising their model of life to help them achieve the outcomes that they want, we are much closer to finding solutions than if I try to rigidly fit them to a model of the world as I see it.

Using strategic approaches in hypnosis (strategic hypnotherapy) is an elegant way to work with the client, in their model of life, to get to the outcome they want. 

What ‘models’ of beliefs, thoughts and life have you adopted?

Which ones serve you, and which ones do not?

If you were to move on from those rigid models to something else, what possibilities exist for you?

Live Well,



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