How are ‘blurred lines’ impacting your life?
Recently I have seen a lot of ‘blurred lines’ that have decreased motivation, interfered with achieving weight loss, stopped great performance and impacted people achieving their goals.
What do I mean by ‘blurred lines’?
- “I had a bad day at work so I need a few glasses of wine”.
- “My boss was such a tyrant that I will reward myself with ice-cream and chocolate”.
- “I had a great day so I think I will take the evening off, and not go to the gym as I planned”.
- “I had a heavy gym session, I deserve a chocolate bar”.
These are blurred lines. I see them in clinical clients as well as coaching clients all the time.
We often allow one part of our life to blur into others.
What if you could have a bad day at work and still make good choices about what you would eat and drink. What if you had a problem in a relationship and still made great choices about what was right for you elsewhere? What if you could keep each part of your life in its correct ‘compartment’?
Compartmentalisation is the skill of keeping different parts of our lives separate – in their correct places – and making specific choices for each part of our life as we go.
If you want to have a glass of wine, that is not dependant on anything else. It is a choice you make. Go to the gym or skip? Again, your choice.
Keeping perspective and compartmentalising stops the lines from blurring. It ensures you take responsibility for the choices that you make. It is a ‘cop out’ to blame your bad day at work for choices you make in other parts of your life.
Where are you blurring the lines in your life?
Where do you hear yourself saying “because of X…” to justify a poor choice?
When do you hear yourself saying “I deserve it”, or “I need it” – chances are you are blurring the lines.
Which choices are you making but blaming on unrelated things?
What would happen if you compartmentalised, and honestly took responsibility for the choices you make?